I was busy. I was sincere. I was working hard, serving at church, doing ministry — local church, overseas missions in Haiti, Nicaragua, and Ghana, foster care, adoption. By every external measure, I was a man who took his faith seriously.
But I was leading two separate lives without realizing it. Confident at work. Lost at home. Faithful in ministry. Purposeless as a father. And the problem wasn’t that I worked too hard — it was that I had never integrated my work into my family’s mission. I was running two separate operations and wondering why both felt incomplete.
The weight of that collapsed on me around thirty. I wasn’t burned out from doing too much. I was hollowed out from doing the wrong things in the wrong order. A decade of ministry, a handful of failed ventures, a family I loved deeply but couldn’t articulate a clear mission for. I knew something was wrong. I just didn’t have the language for it yet.
The shift came through a single question from a mentor: “What are your family’s current assignments?”
I didn’t have an answer. And then a verse I’d read a hundred times landed differently: “For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.” (Ephesians 2:10). The assignments weren’t mine to invent.
They were already written. My job was to find them.
I began praying, writing, and paying attention to what God had already been doing in our family. For the first time in years, I knew where we were going — not as a vague hope, but as a clear, written, lived mission.
Today I’ve been married sixteen years to my wife — my closest partner and cofounder in everything we’re building. We have six children, five adopted and one biological, and a household that is very much a work in progress. We are not just a family that happens to be on mission. The family is the vehicle — the team God assembled for the assignments He prepared for us. That distinction changed everything about how I lead.
I’ve spent over fifteen years in family business, a decade in church leadership, and I’m a certified Business Made Simple Coach. I’ve made more mistakes than I can count — in my marriage, in business, in fatherhood — and I’ve learned more from those than from anything else.
I built Fathers on Mission for the man I was at thirty — the one who loved his family, worked hard, served at church, and still couldn’t tell you where his family was going or why. A coach who understood both the business and the family. Who took faith seriously without being preachy. Who could look a Christian father in the eye and say: you are not failing because you’re weak. You’re struggling because nobody gave you a mission, a framework, and a plan.
That’s what I’m here to do.
One Life. One Mission. One Lord.
Let’s get your family on it.
